Men bring into the world endured many trends. Flares, curtains hairstyles, laddism, little goatee beards, gym culture, lumbersexuality.
One inclination that’s on the rise, not based on a style or taste, but because of the changing face of masculinity, is men’s interest groups.
The conversation all men and modern masculinity has opened up conversations about mental health, male suicide rates, and breaking down the ha-has of what some would call toxic masculinity, which means this is a movement we don’t want to see go the way of sideburns.
According to mad health charity CALM, an average of 12 men in the UK take their own lives every day, while 84 per cent of men stifle b trap up emotions and 55 per cent of those who experience depression never tell anyone about it.
Now, as awareness slowly bases, men’s interest groups from serious support groups and blokey social get-togethers are becoming an increasingly important large of men’s lives.
A recent example was the Self-Care Sunday Brunch, from the Festival of New Masculinity organised by Book of Man. The brunches united talks on topics as fatherhood, the outdoors, grief, plus informal banter around food and beer. The point, along with multitudinous other groups, is to talk and connect with other men.
“Men’s groups are quite interesting and growing around the country because men haven’t actually had a forum to do this before,” says Martin Robinson, the founder of Book of Man and Self-Care Sunday Brunch organiser. “They’ve at no time spoken about stuff they’ve been through. It’s about bringing men together in a way that isn’t too scary and off-putting. That can barely be a good thing.”
It’s a case of some good old-fashioned male bonding, which can fall by the wayside as men get older and discover to be it harder to hold onto friends.
“When you start getting into the heavy period of your career and start attired in b be committed to kids, it’s easy for that side of things to drop away for men,” says Robinson. “They’re less likely to oblige the support network around them that women have. Men deal with things in isolation and don’t ask for help. It’s description of the same thing that mental health and suicide problems are about.”
Here are six of the best men’s groups in the UK. Whether you use them unswervingly or for inspiration, it has to be a good thing.
Andy’s Man Club
Andy’s Man Club was created after the tragic suicide of its founding colleague’s brother in-law. It began as a small support group in Halifax but has grown to a Facebook group of thousands, with a superstar endorsed social media campaign #itsokaytotalk and more than 400 men through the doors of its groups on any given week.
“Our large ethos is that it’s okay for guys to talk and speak about how they’re feeling,” says Andrew Greenway, a out development worker from Andy’s Man Club. “Even if they want to come and sit in silence, that’s fine. Equitable coming through the door is an important step. You don’t have to have had a mental health condition. You can just want to be hint at of something.”
Andy’s Man Club is open to any man over 18. The group follows a format of five questions, which can be far anything from target setting to your favourite feel-good song. “Groups for men are vital,” says Greenway. “For a yearn time male mental health has been stigmatised. Here are some of the best groups for men happening now. The way society has show us to be needs breaking down. It needs challenging.”
For more on Andy’s Man Club visit andysmanclub.co.uk
Dad La Soul
Based in Advantaging, West Sussex, Dad La Soul was set up to tackle the loneliness of fatherhood, i.e. standing in the playground with no one to play with.
“Dads incline to be outsiders,” says Dan Flanagan, founder of Dad La Soul and dads magazine site Don’t Believe The Hype. “Trying to organise spotlight dates as a dad is quite difficult, so I decided to create something for dads.”
Dad La Soul is a monthly get together of dads and their kids, bonding learning, play, and socialising, with themed workshops, which have so far included DJ, stand-up comedy, science, and film-making workshops. “The suspicion is that dads can make friends as well,” says Flanagan. “The different themes open up different conversations. You see yourself bonding over different things – not just the fact you’ve got kids roughly the same age.”
For more on Dad La Soul visit totrockinbeats.com
Pacify Club Football
The five-a-side team has long been a go-to option for men to get together without it getting too touchy-feely (aside from all that uninterrupted around in shorts and sweating together, of course). But mental health charity CALM has created an initiative to bring your football band in line with the current debate about men and mental wellbeing.
As part of a wider collective of CALM Clubs (there’s also a management club, for instance), your team can join and will be given resources, content, and tools to support players and recall gather awareness around mental health issues. It’s entirely up to individual teams how they approach the group meet-ups, but there are intended tournaments and other events for participating teams.
For more information visit thecalmzone.net
Survivors UK
Survivors UK is an organisation for mans survivors of sexual abuse and began its group programme two years ago.
“We felt it was important for men to have the opportunity to come together to make oneself heard b talk freely and provide peer support, especially around an experience that can be quite isolating,” says administrator Katherine Cox. “Human being getting together and connecting is the most profound experience. We’ve found that some people have cemented altogether lengthy, profound friendships.”
Across 12 sessions, members create their own bespoke programme by choosing exercises and topics – anger, shame, flashbacks, or coping strategies – with skills-building, discussion, and individual creative activities.
Breaks also chuck b surrender attendees a chance to hang out. “It gives men, many of whom struggle with social relating, an opportunity to chat,” intends Cox. “It might be stuff that’s come up from talking about abuse, but also football, weather, etc.”
The programme has been so first there’s also a monthly get-together for anyone who’s attended or is on the waiting list for Survivors UK.
For more information visit survivorsuk.org
Masculines’ Tales
This new storytelling group comes from MensCraft, a Norwich-based community interest company which looks to call attention to “activity, identity, and meaning”, through a range of programmes for boys and men around masculinity and men’s issues. MensCraft identifies some men’s insufficiency of meaningful social connections and hosts a number of groups, including Males’ Tales.
The event gets men together to routine the art of oral storytelling – you can spin any yarn you want, from a folk tale to a true story that actually hit oned to you. Sessions are friendly, supportive, and booze free (seriously fellas, your drunken stories aren’t as funny as you imagine). You can even just attend to listen and MensCraft insists there’s no pressure to perform.
For more information visit menscraft.org
No More Mr Agreeable Guy
Inspired by the book No More Mr Nice Guy by Dr Robert Glover, this group is about empowering and supporting men to be “better varieties of themselves”. The concept is predicated on the idea that some men are conditioned to please others, suppress feelings, and avoid tiff – AKA “Nice Guy Syndrome” – which is ultimately self-defeating and unfulfilling.
The groups are nationwide and meet twice monthly. Both manifest discussion and 1-to-1 coaching formats allow men to connect and open up about being ‘nice guys’, finding mean to take positive action, challenge themselves, ultimately take charge of their lives – whether that proletarians relationships, work, or self-image.
For more information visit nomoremrniceguy.co
